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Pet Loss Support Resources

 

“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are messengers of overwhelming grief and unspeakable love”. ~ Washington Irving

Dodo has a lovely collection of first and last photos of beloved pets. Perhaps doing something like this would be one small thing you can do in your grieving process. We have other ideas as well.

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I Remember

I stood by your bed last night. I came to have a peep.
I could see that you were crying. You found it hard to sleep.

I whined to you softly as you brushed away a tear,
“It’s me, I haven’t left you, I’m well, I’m fine, I’m here.”

I was close to you at breakfast. I watched you pour the tea.
You were thinking of the many times your hands reached down to me.

I was with you at the shops today. Your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels ~ I wish I could do more.

I was with you at my grave today. You tend it with such care.
I want to re-assure you that I’m not lying there.

I walked with you towards the house as you fumbled for your key.
I gently put my paw on you. I smiled and said “It’s me.”

You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair.
I tried so hard to let you know that I was standing there.

It’s possible for me to be so near you everyday.
To say to you with certainty, “I never went away.”

You sat there very quietly, then smiled. I think you knew ~
in the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.

The day is over ~ I smile and watch you yawning,
and say “Good-night, God bless, I’ll see you in the morning.”

And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
I’ll rush across to greet you and we’ll stand, side by side.

I have so many things to show you, there is so much for you to see.
Be patient, live your journey out ~ then come home to be with me.

— Author unknown

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Links and Resources:

Pet Loss Support Hotlines

Cummings School of Veterinary Medicine at Tufts University

(508) 839-7966 M-F 6 to 9pm

The ASPCA

(877) 474-3310 Seven days a week

Websites That Offer Pet Loss Support

Tufts Veterinary Pet Loss Support Hotline

Dogtime Dog Grief Archives

Psych Central Grieving the Loss of a Pet

Association of Pet Loss and Bereavement

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Children and Pet Loss

AHA Activities for Grieving Children

Pet Loss Grief Support Coloring Book for Kids

Pet Loss Help

Pet Loss www.petloss.com

Rainbow Bridge and Pet Loss

Rainbow Bridge

HSUS Coping with Death of a Pet

Animal Hospices and Sanctuaries

Pet Health

Caring for Old, Sick or Dying Dogs

In-Home Euthanasia

Grief Healing article on Guilt in the Wake of the Euthanasia Decision

Links to a variety of artists for memorial keepsakes

BarkPost 11 Ways To Honor Your Dog’s Memory When They Pass

Dogster article on pet loss

Pet Grief on Pinterest

Matters of Love and Death article

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Reading for Adults

Just One More Day (Geoffrey Bain)

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Good-Bye, Dear Friend: Coming to Terms with the Death of a Pet.
Virginia Ironside.
Robson Books, London, 1994.
Goodbye, Friend.
Gary Kowalski.
Stillpoint Publishing International, Walpole, New Hampshire, 1997.
Goodbye My Friend.
M. & H. Montgomery
Montgomery Press, Minneapolis, 1991.

 

Going Home: Finding Peace When Pets Die (Jon Katz)

Coping with Sorrow on the Loss of Your Pet (Moira Allen)

Grieving the Death of a Pet (Betty Carmack)

When Only Love Remains: The Pain of Pet Loss (Emily Sturparyk)

When Your Pet Dies: How to Cope with Your Feelings (Jamie Quackenbush & Denise Graveline)

Blessing the Bridge (Rita Reynolds)

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Transitions (Jonathan Rudinger)

Conscious Transitions (Andrea Floyd)

The Loss of a Pet: A Guide to Coping with the Grieving Process When a Pet Dies (Fourth Edition).  (Wallace Sife)

All God’s Creatures Go to Heaven.  (Amy Nolfo-Wheeler, N. A. Noel)
Indianapolis, Indiana: Noel Studio, 1996.
Angel Pawprints.
Laurel Hunt
Pasadena, California: Darrowby Press, 1998.
Out of print. Limited availability.
Angel Whiskers.
Laurel E. Hunt (Editor)
New York: Hyperion, 2000.
Out of print. Limited availability.
Because of Flowers and Dancers.
Veterinary Practice Publishing Co., Santa Barbara, California, 1994.
Out of print. Not available.
Bill at Rainbow BridgeBill at Rainbow Bridge.
Dan Carrison
Modern Family Classics Publishing, 2010
Chicken Soup for the Pet Lover’s Soul.
Jack Canfield (Editor), et al.
Health Communications, Deerfield Beach, Florida, 1998.
Cold Noses At the Pearly Gates: A Book of Hope.
Gary Kurz.
Friendswood, Texas, 1997.
Conversations With My Old Dog: For Anyone Who has Ever Loved and Lost a Pet.
Robert S. Pasick.
Chicago: Transitions Bookplace, 2000.
Coping with Sorrow on the Loss of Your Pet, 2nd edition.
Moira Anderson.
Alpine Publications Inc., Loveland, CO, 1996.
Out of print. Limited availability.
Coping with the Loss of a Pet: A Gentle Guide for All Who Love a Pet.
Christina M. Lemieux.
Reading, Pennsylvania, Wallace R. Clark Publishers, 1988.
Crossing the Rubicon: Celebrating the Human-Animal Bond in Life and Death.
Julie Kaufman, D.C., C.A.C.
Xenophon Publications, Cottage Grove, Wisconsin, 1999.
The Daisy Sutra.
Helen Weaver.
Buddha Rock Press, Woodstock, New York, 2001.
Death of a Pet: Answers to Questions for Children and Animal Lovers of All Ages.
J. Potter, Jr. and George Koss.
Guideline Publications, Stamford, New York, 1991.
Dog Gone: Coping with the Loss of a Pet (Revised).
Howard Bronson.
Sandwich, Massachusetts: Bestsell Publications, 2000.
Dogs Have Souls Too: The Spirit of Miss Sarah.
George and Emily Watson.
PMD Publishing, Salt Lake City, Utah, 2000.
A Dog To RememberA Dog to Remember
June Greig
Evergreen Bay Publishing, 2011
The Final Farewell: Preparing For and Mourning the Loss of Your Pet.
Marty Tousley & Katherine Heuerman.
Our Pals Publishing Co., Phoenix, Arizona, 1997. Out of print. Limited availability.
Forever Friends: Resolving Grief After the Loss of a Beloved Animal.
Joan Coleman.
J.C. Tara Enterprises, Inc., Las Vegas, Nevada, 1993.
For Every Cat an Angel.
Christine Davis.
Lighthearted Press, Portland, Oregon, 2001.
For Every Dog An Angel.
Christine Davis.
Lighthearted Press, Portland, Oregon, 2001.
Out of stock.
For the Love of Princess: Surviving the Loss of Your Pet.
Cheryl A. Matschek.
Albuquerque, New Mexico: Princess Pub, 1998.
Geadon’s Gift: Surviving the Loss of Your Pet.
Cheryl Underhill, M. Ed., LPC.
Geadon’s Gift Publications, 1997.
Gently Into the NightGently Into the Night
Barbara Rosenfield Douglas
Lulu.com, 2011
Good Grief: Finding Peace After Pet Loss.Good Grief
Sid Korpi
Healy House Books, 2009
The Grief Recovery Handbook.
John James.
Harper Collins, New York, 1988.
Out of print. Limited availability.
Grieving The Death of a PetGrieving the Death of a Pet.
Betty J. Carmack.
Augsburg Fortress Press, Minneapolis, 2002.
Grieving the Loss of Your Pet. (Audio CD)
Peggy Haymes, Susan Lautemann.
Winston-Salem, North Carolina: Kalalogos, 2003.
Guide to Pet Loss Resources, 3rd Edition.
Davis C. Anderson.
Victoria, BC: Trafford, 2005.
Healing the Pain of Pet Loss: Letters in Memoriam.
Kymberly Smith.
Philadelphia: Charles Press Publisher, 1997.
Heal Your HeartHeal Your Heart. (Audio CD)
Karen Adele Litzinger
Heal from Pet Loss, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, 2009.
The Heart That Is Loved Never Forgets.
Kaetheryn Walker.
Healing Arts Press, Rochester, Vermont, 1999.
How To Roar: Pet Loss Grief Recovery.
Robin Jean Brown.
Lulu Press, Morrisville, North Carolina, 2005.
How to Survive the Loss of a Love (2nd edition).
Melba Colgrove, et al.
Prelude Press, Los Angeles, 1991.
The Human-Animal Bond and Grief.
Butler Lagoni & Saunders Hetts.
Philadelphia, 1994.
In-Home Pet Euthanasia TechniquesIn-Home Pet Euthanasia Techniques
Kathleen Cooney
Home to Heaven, P.C.; First edition (May, 2011)
I Remember You: A Grief Journal.
Laynee Gilbert
L.O.A. Publications, 2000.
It’s Okay To Cry (Revised Edition).
Maria L. Quintana, et al.
Mariposa Press, Perrysburg, Ohio, 2000.
Journey Through Pet LossJourney Through Pet Loss. (audio cassette)
Deborah Antinori.
Yoko Spirit Publications, Basking Ridge, New Jersey, 2000.
Just One More DayJust One More Day
Geoffrey Bain
Enchanted Forest Press, 2012.
The Kingdom of Heart: A Pet Loss Journal
Patty L. Luckenbach.
Spiritual Living Press, 2005.
The Last Will and Testament of an Extremely Distinguished Dog.
Eugene O’Neill.
Henry Holt & Company, Inc., 1999 (reprint).
Let’s Talk About When Your Pet Dies.
Marianne Johnston.
Rosen Publishing Group, 1998.
Life After Loss (2nd Edition).
Bob Deits.
Fisher Books, Tucson, Arizona, 1992.
Out of print. Limited availability.
Losing Your Dog: Coping with Grief When Your Pet Dies.
Mickie Gustafson.
Bergh Publishing, New York, 1991.
The Loss of a PetThe Loss of a Pet: A Guide to Coping with the Grieving Process When a Pet Dies (Fourth Edition)
Wallace Sife, Ph.D.
New York: Howell Book House, 2014.Readers of this book were the founding members of the APLB. It is now being used as the basis for all our counselor training. Please ask for this newly revised and expanded Fourth Edition.
Loving and Losing a Pet: A Psychologist and a Veterinarian Share Their Wisdom.
Michael Stern and Susan Cropper.
Jason Aronson Inc., Northvale, New Jersey, 1998.
Maya’s First Rose: Diary of a Very Special Love.
Martin Kosins.
Open Sky Books, Royal Oaks, Michigan, 1992.
My Personal Pet Remembrance Journal.
Enid Traisman.
Direct Book Service, 1995.
Old Dogs RememberedOld Dogs Remembered.
Bud Johns (Editor).
Synergistic Press, Inc., San Francisco, 1999.
One Hour With PatrickOne Hour With Patrick.
Jeff Coltenback.
CreateSpace, 2011
Ophelia’s Winter.
Sarah Ann Hill.
1st Books, Bloomington, Indiana, 2000.
Pack of Two: The Intricate Bond between People and Dogs.
Caroline Knapp.
Broadway Books, New York, 1999.
Paw Prints in Heaven? Christians and Pet Loss.
James L. McClinton, Ph.D.
Lincoln, Nebraska: iUniverse, Inc., 2004
Pet Loss: A Spiritual Guide.
Eleanor Harris.
Llewellyn Publications, St. Paul, Minnesota, 1997.
Pet Loss: A Spiritual Guide.
Julia A. Harris.
New York: Lantern Books, 2002.
Pet Loss: A Thoughtful Guide for Adults and Children.
Herbert Nieberg, Ph.D.
Harper & Row, New York, 1982, 1996.
Pet Loss and Children: Establishing A Healthy Foundation.
Cheri Barton Ross.
New York: Brunner-Routledge, 2005.
Pet Loss and Human Bereavement.
William J. Kay, et. al.
Ames, Iowa: Blackwell Professional, 1995.
Pet Loss and Human Bereavement: A Symposium.
Kay, Nieberg, et al.
Iowa State University Press, 1984.
Pet Loss and Human Emotion: A Guide To Recovery (2nd Edition).
Cheri Barton Ross, et al.
Brunner-Routledge, 2007.
Preparing For The Loss Of Your PetPreparing for the Loss of Your Pet: Saying Goodbye with Love, Dignity, and Peace of Mind.
Myrna M. Milani.
Prima Publishing, Rocklin, California, 1998.
Out of print. Limited availability.
Separate Lifetimes.
Irving Townsend.
Townsend Publications, 1986.
Out of print. Not available.
Shelby's Grace: From Abused Pup to Angel of MercyShelby’s Grace: From Abused Pup to Angel of Mercy [Kindle Edition]
Joe Dwyer.
Perennial Press Publishing LLC, 2010
A Snowflake in My Hand.
Samantha Mooney.
Delacorte, New York, 1983.
Spirit Dogs: Heroes in Heaven.
Susan Kelleher, Rod Lawrence.
Silverthrone, Colorado: Owl of Athene Press, 1998.
Surviving the Heartbreak of Choosing Death for Your Pet.
Linda Peterson, editor.
Greentree Publishing, West Chester, Pennsylvania, 1997.
Three Cats, Two Dogs: One Journey Through Multiple Pet Loss
David Congalton.
NewSage Press, Troutdale, Oregon, 2000.
When A Pet Dies (Roger, Fred. First Experiences)
Fred Rogers.
New York: Putnam Publishing Group, 1998.
When Only the Love RemainsWhen Only the Love Remains: The Pain of Pet Loss.
Emily Stuparyk.
Winnipeg, Canada: Stuparyk Publishing, 1998
When Your Pet Dies (Pomerance)When Your Pet Dies
Diane Pomerance, Ph.D.; Illustrated by Vanessa Mier
Polaire Publications, 2001.
When Your Pet Dies: Dealing with Your Grief and Helping Your Children Cope.
Christine Adamec.
The Berkley Publishing Group, New York, 1996.
Out of print. Limited availability.
When Your Pet Dies: How to Cope with Your Feelings.
Jamie Quackenbush & Denise Graveline.
New York: Simon & Schuster, 1985.
Will I See Fido in Heaven?: Scriptually Revealing God’s Eternal Plan for His Lesser Creatures.
Mary Buddemeyer-Porter.
Manchester, Missouri: Eden Publications, 1995

Pyschology of Loss

Adaptation to Loss Through Short-Term Group Therapy.
William Piper, et al
New York, The Guildford Press, 1992.
Clinical Management of Bereavement: A Handbook for Health Care Professionals.
Barnell & Barnell
New York, Hamm Sciences Press, 1989.
Death, the Final Stage of Growth.
Elizabeth Kubler-Ross.
Englewood Cliffs, NJ, Simon & Schuster, 1986.
Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy: A Handbook for Mental Health Professionals
J.W. Worden
New York, Springer Publishing Company, 1991.
Out of print. Limited availability.
Helping Children Cope with Separation and Loss.
C. Jewett
The Harvard Common Press, MA, 1982.
Living Through Mourning: Finding Comfort and Hope When a Loved One Has Died.
Harriet Sarnoff Schiff
New York, Viking Penguin, 1986.
Out of print. Limited availability.
Necessary Losses.
Judith Viorst
New York: Fawcett Gold Medal, 1986.
The Problem of Loss and Mourning: Psychiatric Perspectives.
David Dietrich, et al
International Universities Press, Inc. 1989.
Shamanic Guide to Death and Dying: Includes Meditations & Rituals
Kristin Madden
St. Paul, Minnesota: Llewellyn Publications, 1999
Talking about Death: A Dialogue Between Parent and Child.
Earl Grollman
Boston, Beacon Press, 1985.

Reading for Children

The Tenth Good Thing About Barney (Judith Viorst)

When a Pet Dies (Fred Rogers)

Saying Goodbye to Lulu (Corinne Demas)

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The Accident.
C. Carrick
New York, Clarion Books, 1976.
Animal Elders: Caring for Our Aging Animal Companions (Pomerance)Animal Elders: Caring About Our Aging Animal Companions
Diane Pomerance, Ph.D.; Illustrated by Trey Wright
Polaire Publications, 2005
A Special Place for Charles: A Child’s Companion Through Pet Loss.
Debby Moorhead
Broomfield, CO, Partners in Publishing, 1996.
The Black Dog Who Went Into the Woods .
Edith Thatcher Hurd
Harper Row, 1980.
The Bravest Thing .
Donna Jo Napoli
New York: Dutton Children’s Books, 1995.
Butterflies: Talking with Children about Death and Life Eternal .
William VanderWyden,
Tabor, 1991.
Out of print. Limited availability.
Charlotte’s Web
E.B. White
New York, Dell Publishing Co., 1952.
Children and Pet Loss: A Guide for Helping .
Marty Tousley
Scottsdale, Arizona, Companion Animal Association of Arizona, 1996.
Children Who Grieve: A Manual for Conducting Support Groups .
Roberta Beckmann
Holmes Beach, FL, Learning Publications, Inc., 1990.
Out of print. Limited availability.
The Comeback Dog.
Jane Resh Thomas,
New York, Bantam-Skylark, 1984.
The Dead Bird.
Margaret Brown
New York, Harper Collins, 1983.
Out of stock.
The Fall of Freddie the Leaf: 20th Anniversary Edition.
Leo Buscaglia
New York: Holt, Rinehart & Winston, 2002.
Finding Peace After the Loss of a Loved Animal Companion (Pomerance)Finding Peace After the Loss of a Loved Animal Companion
Diane Pomerance, Ph.D.; Illustrated by Trey Wright
Polaire Publications, 2006
The Forever Dog .
Bill Cochran (author), Dan Andreasen (illustrator)
HarperCollins, 2007.
The Golden Coyote.
Eileen Thompson
New York: Simon & Schuster, Children’s Book Div., 1971.
Goodbye Mousie.
Robie H. Harris, Jan Ormerod (Illustrator).
Margaret K. McElderry, 2001.
Growing Time.
Sandol Warburg
New York, Houghton-Mifflin, 1969.
Healing Your Heart When Your Animal Friend is Gone: A Children’s Pet Bereavement Workbook.
Kimberly A. Cardeccia
Bree’s Gift Publishing, Howell, MI, 2004.
I’ll Always Love You.
Hans Wilhelm
New York, Crown Publishers, 1985.
Out of stock.
It Must Hurt a Lot.
Doris Sanford
Multnomah Press, 1986. December 14, 1997
Out of print. Limited availability.
Jasper’s Day.
Marjorie Blain Parker
Kids Can Press, Toronto/New York, 2002
King Emmett the Second.
Mary Stolz
New York: Greenwillow Books, 1991.
Koko’s Kitten.
Francine Patterson
Dr. Scholastic, Inc. Reading Rainbow, 1985.
Out of print. Limited availability.
Let’s Talk About When Your Pet Dies
Marianne Johnston
(The Let’s Talk Library), 1998
Lifetimes: The Beautiful Way to Explain Death to Children .
Brian Mellonie & Robert Ingpen
New York, Bantam Books, Inc, 1983.
Mouse Named Mus.
Irene Brady,
Boston: Houghton Mifflin Co., 1972.
Mustard.
Charlott Graeber.
New York: MacMillan.
Noodle.
Munro Leaf
New York, Scholastic Book Services, 1971.
Our Rescue Dog Family Album (Pomerance)Our Rescue Dog Family Album
Diane Pomerance, Ph.D.
Polaire Publications, 2010
Remembering OakleyRemembering Oakley
Carl J. Schutt
Inkus Imagination, 2009
Remembering Pets
Gina Dalpra-Berman
Robert Reed Publishers, San Francisco, 2001
Petey.
Tobi Tobias
New York: G.P. Putnam’s Sons, 1978.
Rosalie.
Joan Hewett
Lothopp, 1987.
Rusty -n- Nikki, Doggie Lessons in Life and Love.
Janus Moncur
Mon Coeur Publishing, LLC; 2007 Edition
Sad (What Does It Mean?).
Sylvia Root Tester
Elgin IL: The Child’s World, c.1980.
The Saddest Time.
Albert Norma
Whitman Press, 1986.
Out of print. Limited availability.
Sunny: The Death of a Pet.
Judith E. Greenberg and Helen H. Carey,
New York, Franklin Watts, 1986.
The Tenth Good Thing About Barney.
Judith Viorst
New York: Aladdin Books, Macmillan, 1971.
When a Pet Dies.
Fred Rogers (Mr. Rogers)
New York: G.P. Putnam’s Sons, 1988.
When Your Pet Dies (Pomerance)When Your Pet Dies.
Diane Pomerance, Ph.D.; Illustrated by Vanessa Mier
Polaire Publications, 2001
When Kitty Passed Away: Explaining Pet Cremation to a Child.
Linda Makkay (Author), Marlene Hingstman (Illustrator).
Beaver’s Pond Press (August 29, 2007)

 

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